They say that your own disposition determines the quality of life you will have. Do you agree? Personally, I do. I believe that with the right thoughts and character, we can be happy and contented. We can reach that state of bliss and satisfaction only when we experience life, learn how to bear with its course, and live with no regrets.
I have read somewhere that the saddest summary of life has three descriptions: could have, might have, should have. Even in my early twenty years of existence, there are already many memories stored in my past which made me awake at night thinking what I could have done differently. As I get older, I learned a lot of things. I realized that it is not worthy to waste precious time thinking about earlier mistakes and bad decisions. If I haven’t gone through those experiences, no matter how painful and tragic some were, I won’t be the strong and knowledgeable person I am now. This sounds cliché, but it is okay to make mistakes. Accepting that I am fallible and forgiving myself is one huge step. Moving on without regrets is the next.
This may sound elementary, but how can we start a life without being regretful? Here are some of the things I have learned after staying awake last night:
- Forgive yourself. Accept that it is acceptable to commit errors once in a while. Sure, it could be as mundane as forgetting to feed your pet so it died from starvation, to grave things like driving under the influence and got into an accident. Mistakes may be classified to various levels and categories, but you must learn and move on from them.
- Accept change. It is constant, anyway. Anyone can change (hopefully for the better) and you are not excluded. Forget the past and start living the present and planning the future. Happiness will be on its way.
- Find your humor. Prices of commodities may be skyrocketing, but genuine smiles and hearty laughter are free. So why limit yourself to five smiles a day?
- Appreciate what you have. Madonna said that we are living in a material world, but the most important things are not included in that plane. Count your blessings and write it somewhere you can see everyday to be reminded how gifted you are.
- Value your relationships. Why not give your dad a hug and tell mom you love her every day? Show the people in your life how important they are to you as often as you can.
- Make amends. Have you been dishonest, neglectful, or cruel to someone? Grab the opportunity to ask for forgiveness and reconciliation.
- Take care of your health. Remember that being healthy is not only your interest, but also your family’s and friends’.
- Know that happiness does not equate to your bank account. Money can buy a lot of things, but not everything.
- Prioritize. Don’t waste your time on things that don’t make you feel happy and fulfilled.
- Don’t procrastinate. If you can do it now, then why put it off until later? Time is so precious that you should make the most out of it while you still can.
I can go on with the list, but I know you already those these stuff. Moving on, let me inspire you more by citing other things related to living with no regrets.
No Regrets Perfume
Few days ago, I featured Enigma perfume, the newest addition to my collection. Interestingly, there’s another one from the same line with a name apt for this blog post. No Regrets by Alexandra de Markoff is a floral and fruity perfume with notes of ylang-ylang (a beautiful orchid abundant in my country), tuberose, and gardenia, among others. Even though I live in a tropical country, the fragrance reminds me of spring when I have visited Japan. It assaults my senses with freshly bloomed spring flowers and the cozy warmth of sunlight. I feel like wearing one of my favorite cute spring dresses while going outdoors and walking/jumping with glee.
But no tears will be shed
There’ll be no one to blame
Let it always be said
We attempted what came
No, no regrets
No, we will have no regrets
As you leave, I can say
Love was king, but for only a day
Life still goes on
Yes, even though love has gone
One last kiss
Shrug and sign
Even though it’s goodbye
How do you choose to live your life? Do you prefer thinking all the what-could-have-been or forgiving yourself and moving forward? To end this post, let me quote Morrie Schwartz of Tuesday with Morrie by Mitch Albom by saying, “I thought about all the people I knew who spent many of their waking hours feeling sorry for themselves. How useful it would be to put a daily limit on self-pity. Just a few tearful minutes, then on with the day.”