Last week, I attended #TeenWeekPH2014, a youth development movement geared in producing future-ready Filipino teens. In the event, I was able to once again experience how it was like to live like a teen – hopeful, ambitious, confused. It was an eye-opening day for me as I reminisced several moments in my teenage years.
As I looked back, I wish I did a lot of things before like change those awkward clothes, ignore those childish crushes, find a life beyond books, let go of that horrendous unmatched face powder, and be wiser in my decisions. There were tons of things I could have done and would have said, but I couldn’t say that I didn’t learn anything from my mistakes and experiences in the past.
Still, if I am to write a letter to my 16-year-old self, here is what it’s gonna be:
Dear young Monica,
You are in this moment in your life when everything seems blurry and confusing. True, you are now eager to start a new phase in your life – college. I know it is not gonna be easy. Who’s confident to walk around the university as a freshman? But honey, let go some of your shyness and go out of your shell. It is time to build friendships that could go beyond your academic walls. You would find yourself surprised that sometimes, real relationships are better than your fictional ones.
I know you are competitive and there is nothing wrong with that. You find yourself pushing your limits when in a competition that inspires you to do well and exceed your initial goal. Yes, you can compete with your best friend. If you haven’t met him yet, don’t worry. It isn’t hard to spot him in your class. By competing with him, you can both earn academic distinction later on. 🙂
Value your worth. I know you have your own insecurities, but let me tell you do this: You are a very wonderful young woman worth cherishing. Don’t let anyone think and make you feel otherwise.
My dear, know when it is time to let go. It may be your fear of getting a grade lower than 1.75, a huge crush on someone, or a favorite and abused branded bag, but no matter what’s the case, don’t hold on too tightly on something that is hurting you and not making you happy. It may sound cliché, and I think it is, but sometimes, some things are not just meant to be. But cheer up, your grades will all be safe! *wink wink*
Despite all of these advice, simply enjoy and live life to the fullest. C’est la vie! You don’t have the luxury of time to have everything of this repeated in the future, so better make the best out of your life. When presented with opportunities, grab them. Spend more time with your family and friends as these people will be there with you no matter what. When you have the time and resources, travel as far as you can go. You would never know when you can have these chances again. More importantly, be yourself and love who you are! It may be tempting to change to a person who is perceived to be well liked, but remember that the people who are important to your life appreciates who you really are.
Your older self
Top: JustClothingPH | Chino shorts: Uniqlo | Shoes: Zappatto | Cap: Human |
If you could give an advice to your younger self, what would it be?